Friday, June 1, 2007

Children and Parent Divorce

Family is the basic concept of the community and in the eyes of a child; family must not separate in anyway. This is one crucial part in separating spouses who has children that may be affected by divorce or separation.

Child Psychologists believe that parents needs to consider their children when thinking of divorce or separation.

Any laws on marriage, even divorce has keeping the family intact as its core. However, if keeping the union detrimental to the parties involved, then divorce may be inevitable.

In order to help you manage your relationship with your children and the process of divorce, Child Psychologists’ advice the following:

1. Never argue or bad mouth your spouse in front of your children. Children will never want to hear negative things about either of their parents.

2. Before, during or even after the divorce process, parents need to attend important occasions involving your children. This will help avoid confusion in the mind of your children.

3. Depending on the child’s age, you may need to explain the reason for the separation or at the very least discuss with them how you will still be around when they need you. You may also discuss visitation schedules and keep your promise to show up during pick up and drop off.

4. Ensure that you will make every time with your children as active, lively and fun for them. Movies, sports activities and even exercising may be fun if you and your child do it together.

5. Always reassure the children how both of you love them, and that whatever conflict that transpired they have nothing to do with it.

Considering their feelings and making things easy for them will help your children deal with the pains of divorce and separation.

Finally, the most important thing to do when you undergo divorce and separation process is to take care of yourself. Your children will feel that if you are ruined after the divorce or separation, they will feel doubly hurt.

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